Why You Should Ghost Your Ex, Not Your Lawyer - Bucks County Real Estate, Estates and Divorce and Custody Attorney

Then it comes to breakups and divorce, “ghosting” has become a popular term. Ignoring your ex’s calls or texts might be necessary for your peace of mind. But there’s one person you should never ghost during this process: your lawyer.

As a family law firm, we’ve seen firsthand how communication, whether it’s consistent or completely lacking, can impact divorce, custody, and support cases. Here’s why keeping the lines open with your attorney is critical:

1. Silence Slows Down Your Case

Every divorce or custody matter runs on deadlines. Court filings, responses, and hearings all require timely communication. If you go quiet on your lawyer, important opportunities can be missed, and that can delay your case or even hurt your outcome.

2. Your Lawyer Can Only Work With What You Share

Your attorney is your advocate. But if you don’t provide the full story, financial records, custody details, or even updates about your ex’s behavior, they can’t fully protect your interests. Ghosting your lawyer leaves them in the dark, while your ex’s lawyer may be building a stronger case.

3. Ghosting Your Ex Can Be Healthy

While ignoring your attorney is a mistake, putting distance between yourself and your ex may actually help. Constant communication with an ex during divorce often leads to conflict, stress, and even evidence that can be used against you. Direct communication is rarely productive—let your lawyer handle the hard conversations for you.

4. Trust the Process—And the Professional

It’s natural to feel overwhelmed, angry, or even tempted to disengage altogether. But that’s when your lawyer’s role becomes even more important. Think of them as your legal buffer—someone who can step in, protect your rights, and make sure the process moves forward while you focus on healing.

The Bottom Line

When dealing with divorce, custody, or support, remember: it’s okay (and often smart) to ghost your ex. But never ghost your lawyer. Consistent communication with your legal team is the best way to protect your future, your finances, and your family.

👉 If you’re navigating divorce or custody battles, our firm is here to guide you every step of the way. Contact us today to schedule a consultation and keep your case on track

Eddie Rodriguez

15:41 05 Jun 20

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Michael L. Saile, Jr.

13:30 16 Feb 20

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Sanghavi Family

03:24 26 Nov 19

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DM MD

17:51 28 Oct 19

Great lawyers- I had a complex custody issue, and Marianne, my attorney for my recent case, was a HUGE help. Even Christin, who works with Marianne and the firm, gives helpful advice and always available and understanding, as well. Also, they were VERY understanding of my financial situation, and gave advice accordingly, which is a rare find in this field. They are compassionate, understanding, and always available to answer any and all questions. I highly recommend this law firm. They go above and beyond, which again, is rare. I've used their firm for over two years, and always had great experiences. Highly HIGHLY recommend!

Leslie C.

16:59 13 Sep 19

Michael provided superior representation. I’m pleased with the outcome, it was along the lines of what he anticipated. Michael is very knowledgeable and a great negotiator. His team was very supportive and encouraging. They stayed on top of all deadlines to ensure the process was resolved as quickly as possible. I highly recommend Michael and his team.

Veronica Eiben

15:29 08 Jul 19

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Kevin Ireland

04:28 21 Sep 18

Michael is an A+++ lawyer. He is very well versed in the law and fights hard for his clients. His dedication to his craft is unmatched. I HIGHLY recommend him and his legal team.

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18:45 18 Sep 18

Exceptional firm. They made me their priority and were always quick to return my calls and emails. Glad I came to them for help when I needed it! I would highly recommend this firm to anyone in need of legal assistance or advice.

JC Ye

01:09 20 Aug 18

We terminated our previous real estate attorney and came to Michael for help. We were most impressed by Michael's deep commitment on our best interest and his strong legal expertise on helping us achieve the desired outcome. I also really liked Michael's communication - He always returns your call and inform you key progress of the case. We will definitely recommend Michael to our network as the top real estate attorney.

Cartin cartin

16:57 11 Jul 18

Michael Kuldiner and his staff are the best! They are professional, educated and always there when you need them. I went through a very difficult divorce and there is no one else I would rather have by my side then Michael.

Zhanna Sivchuk

00:10 10 Apr 18

I dropped my old attorney and came to Mike. I had 2 matters that needed to be resolved together. My previous attorney was only working on one matter since he was not knowledgeable in the other, my case was going no where. Finally after 6 years i dropped my old attorney and came to Mike. He was able to take care of both matters in fraction of the time and cost than with my previous attorney. Michael and his team are very knowledgeable in many diverse legal areas. I am very happy i switched attorneys and both of my cases were resolved and finalized.